so yeah

At work we openly discuss and educate on such topics as pornography, sexual harassment and more.
Its hard for me to do this.
A) because sometimes I feel like a hypocrite
B) because I sometimes disagree with the curriculum, yet I entirely agree with the reasons behind it.
C) because I don't feel comfortable openly saying that sometimes.
D) because I love sexuality and its variations... and I find that many of the things that are open to various forms of sexuality (sometimes unfortunately) are deemed inappropriate.
For instance we were showing this video, a behind the scenes look at pornography. A rather moving video that highlighted a lot of really important information on the blatant power imbalance in the porn industry... but during the video the reporter also highlighted the booming adult toy industry and talked with a Female business owner about her toy sales....
This brings up that really blurry line because we are trying to show the negative effects of power imbalances in sexuality, yet for some reason women who explore or encourage others to explore their sexuality suddenly are inappropriate? -I guess the journalists want her to be a house wife not a business woman who believes in being open about sexuality?

I dunno.... I feel like there are many mistakes I have made in relationships and my sex life... many times that things got out of hand in terms of wants/desires being expressed in inappropriate ways... but I don't think that sexuality was at fault for that... I think insecurity was. I think that a culture that condemns people's sexuality as being perverted(abnormal) when it fits within the range of natural human sexuality is what causes some of those insecurities and I think if there were ways to talk about that and express it in healthier ways people would do so. But we are such a prude country that the only semi-appropriate expression is through these means that rely on power imbalances, manipulation and abuse. If humans were able to openly express their sexuality without feeling ashamed... would they build up the frustration that causes them to turn sexuality into a power game? Would they need to manipulate others into fulfilling their desires? Would they continue to abuse people in private if everyone accepted them for who they were in public?

-Undoubtedly some people would still feel the need to abuse others. Some would do so because they didn't know any better or couldn't find a better outlet. But I think things would improve if we actually did practice more open but respectful forms of sexuality, forms of communication and education.

-Unfortunately there are natural barriers to these things.
Statistically men and women do have different ideas/interests/turn ons... but if the ideas that all of these things were acceptable (but abuse was not) maybe we wouldn't see as much of the inappropriate "perversions" of sexuality (by perversion, I mean in this case, an actual perversion of sexuality, as in turning sexuality into a power trip, a control mechanism etc... not in something like role playing but in something like relationship abuse).

I tend to believe strongly in these ideas because they have helped me.
Even things that seem trivial like sex columns (savage love) and those programs on vh1 and the history channel about the free love era of the 60s and 70s have had a really wonderful impact on me because they were/are people who wanted to truly be honest about their sexuality in an open way. Yeah they don't always do it in a way that is appropriate, sometimes they are mean and angry, sometimes the ideals aren't followed through with true equality (60s and 70s), but I would like to see a society that is honest and open.

No we shouldn't accept politicians who abuse their power in the office (sexual harassment -clinton etc) but we also shouldn't pretend that its abnormal or require people to step down for their extramarital affairs, unless of course they have been running around condemning others for the same offense (looking at you republicans). I dont give a fuck if a senator trys to pick someone up in an airport bathroom, I only care that this same person wont let people who practice his sexuality have the same rights as others.